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North Central students have in the past years have attended assemblies by Jim Bisenius. Mr. Bisenius speaks to students across the county on teaching children what the bully looks for in his/her targets and how to stop those reactions. These are a few suggestions that Mr. Bisenius told the students. Please take time to look these over, and if needed, take the time to practice these techniques with your child. In addition to this, if you or your child would like to anonymously report a bullying incident, you can send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org. This report will be read by one of the guidance counselors and if needed, shared with an administrator. (There is a link to this site on the North Central webpage, under Student Resources). If you have questions or need more information, please do not hesitate to contact either Mrs. Oyer or Miss Veres.
Students who target feed on fear, attention, and things. Take these away and you will starve bullying behavior. Kids who target others are constantly testing everyone around them. If you pass their test you are left alone, if you fail their test they continue to target you, and others start to target you. You canít control being tested, but you absolutely determine if you continue to be picked on. The bully will not continue to target you unless you give them the reactions they are seeking. What the bullies are looking for and how to take away this power is listed below. Mr. Bisenius also when through these techniques during the assemblies:
Fear: Donít show kids who are bullying any fear. The target needs to practice these techniques at home.
Head: Keep your head tipped slightly up. This makes you appear calm and relaxed.
Eyes: Always keep your eyes higher than eye level and focus on something in the distance. Donít look directly over the bullyís head, always slightly to the right or left.
Mouth: Push your tongue against the roof of your mouth or behind your front teeth. This will stop your jaw from shaking. Bring your lips together to stop your lips from trembling, but donít squeeze them together. Your goal is to look as relaxed and calm as possible.
Breathing: Slow down your breathing silently, and maybe yawn subtly.
Shoulders: Keep your shoulders down and relaxed so you donít look tense and afraid. Do not push them down too hard or you will look tense.
Arms: Let your arms and shoulders swing loosely and naturally as you move. Be careful not to over-exaggerate this or you will look uncomfortable instead of relaxed and confident.
Hands & Fingers: Hold your fingers together and curl them slightly to look natural. Next bring the thumb to the curled index finger for somewhere to let it rest naturally.
Legs & Feet: Walk at half your normal pace and scuff your feet slightly. If you are standing, make sure your feet are at least shoulder width apart. Shift your weight to one side and maybe dip one of your shoulders.
Movements & Walking: Slow down all your movements as much as you can while still looking natural. Donít rush anything. Try to keep your hands away from your face when someone is making fun of you. Covering any part of your face sends out fear to the bully. Slow down your walking speed to about half your normal pace.
Voice: Never say a word to a bully even if you have the perfect comeback. Pretend like you canít hear or see anything they say or do.
Attention: Donít give students who bully attention.
Things: Never give material things to a bully.
Mr. Bisenius encourages parents to practice with their children all of these techniques until all are mastered. Even when a child can do all of the techniques perfectly at home, it is still often difficult to do while they are in a real bullying situation. Many of the fear signals seem to creep back out in real bullying situations. Have your child find a friend who will watch them in real-life situations and give them specific feedback later about the above body-language. This will be the fastest way to master the techniques in real life situations.